One of my mentees at the bake shop reached out to me last year. After all the pleasantries, she said:
“I was just checking to see if you are okay. I noticed you have been writing everyday on your blog. I was wondering if you are fine”.
I went ahead to explain to her how the reverse was the case. When I’m happy, I write.
Yesterday I scanned through my history and I realized that the 3 pieces I wrote in June were written because it was a part of the 7 day Self and story challenge I had started at the end of May. I didn’t write in June.
I smiled and remembered June. June was sad for me. Depressing at some point. I’m glad I’m better now.
I remember when the year started, I usually had well made out collages and a properly written piece to go with the collage. This went well in January and February. I struggled in March and it’s been a real battle since then.
What happened? I don’t know.
Well, here’s the July version of my ‘Life in a Year’ series…two days later than usual.
First off, I had so many quiet reflections in the month and I love the revelations and decisions that came after.
I read a book with my “son” Kator; The Dating Game by Sandy Barker. We enjoyed analyzing and discussing the book. He didn’t want it to end, he enjoyed it too much. I had to make him finish it.
I wrote a short story titled The Roommate Contract. I think it needs a little more work or a good editor.
I attended a wedding with my husband and I loved it.
My son SonTer came home for a 7 week break. Grade 8, here we come.
I painted for the first time in my life. A yellow/orange sunset.
I have a piece for the plant in the collage. I will share this soon.
I was still battling with snoozing my morning alarm for the umpteenth time when I heard “No one would ever believe you are about to be 43. Just look at how young and pretty you look”.
I woke up.
I started rambling. Recalling and retelling several occasions where people assumed I was younger. I was happy.
My friend Nguwa sent me these words in a picture, I decided to transcribe them and share them here. I searched for the author so that I could give them the credit but I wasn’t lucky.
To whoever wrote them, thank you. They are beautiful.
A big part of happiness lies in feeling genuinely excited—excited about the little things. Like making a cup of coffee and really savoring it. Like meeting a friend who feels like home. Like looking forward to the next episode of a show that makes you smile. It’s about saving for something special and finally holding it in your hands. Watching a sunset that reminds you that endings, too, can be beautiful.
It’s about traveling and discovering new sides of yourself. About falling in love, even if it’s just for a moment. Finishing a book that lingers with you long after the last page. Hearing a song that stirs up old, forgotten memories. Laughing unexpectedly, from a place deep inside.
True happiness doesn’t always come from big achievements. It lives in the quiet, ordinary moments—if only we choose to notice them.
To Nguwa, thank you for sharing these words with me and for the coffee, music, laughter and other moments we share together.
I spent many hours in the month of March, April and May on the The Resident, a medical television drama series. I fell in love with several characters including Dr. Conrad Hawkins and Dr. Mina Okafor whom I wrote about in Never Far.
Another character I fell in love with was the Dr. AJ Austin; a cardiothoracic surgeon. AJ is confident, dramatic, intelligent and very egotistic, he is also kind-hearted and caring when he wants to. He walked with a bounce that said ‘I know what I’m worth’. He talked big but he spoke with his heart. I loved AJ.
He gave me Terver vibes. Terver is my husband.
I made a collage of Dr. AJ and Terver on the 7th of May 2025 and planned to write something about it but I never did. Well, now I guess I have to pen something down.
I writing him a farewell.
Dr. AJ Austin’s character was played by Malcolm-Jamal Warner. I watched Malcolm-Jamal when I was a kid. He was Theodore Huxtable in The Cosby Show. I always imagined I was Rudy Huxtable, so I guess that makes him my make-believe big brother.
This evening, I learned from my older sister that Malcolm-Jamal passed away yesterday.
Maybe I’m just weird, but it hurt more than a strangers death should. Maybe I hoped to see more of him on the screens.
It was one of those nights, I decided to give tiktok some minutes of my time before going to bed.
You see, I built my tiktok ‘for you’ page brick by brick, so I get excited when I go there because; I’m going to definitely see a few standup comedy videos…Sebastian Maniscalco will be in atleast one, I’m going to see cats being naughty, then I’m going to see a cute guy dance, maybe Chris Brown. The one thing that’s definitely going to show up more than others is something booktok related.
Booktok is a community on tiktok where you watch videos that give reviews, recommendations, reactions, and have discussions about books.
So, as I scrolled and flipped last night, I saw a video post by Lili Reinhart. I froze, and then I watched it again just to be sure. She will be playing the role of Olive Smith in the Television adaptation of Ali Hazelwood’s The love Hypothesis.
Typical me, I jumped on the search platforms online to see the full cast. I found out Tom Bateman will be playing Dr. Adam Carlsen. I think it’s a good cast. Fans seem to be divided though. More than half of the readers had hoped Adam Driver would be cast if ever the book became a movie.
The Love Hypothesis is a STEM themed funny, nerdy and heartwarming romance novel. If this is your kind of thing and you want to read it before it hits the screens, now is the time.
The release date is not announced yet but filming has begun and is being produced by Amazon MGM Studios, MRC, and Bisous Pictures.
I think I might browse that book again while I wait
I stopped by my bakeshop on my way home from work this evening. The girls, my “son” and I got talking and somehow, we got to talking about how something really broke Blessing’s heart. As we went deeper into this thing that broke her heart, we began to talk about how funny it was that most people feel a heartbreak only has to do with the end of romantic relationship.
A Heartbreak Is More Than a Breakup.
When people hear the word heartbreak, most think of a romantic breakup. Maybe a boyfriend or girlfriend walking away, a spouse choosing someone else, or the end of a love story. That is heartbreak, yes… but it is not the whole story. Heartbreak is wider, heartbreak is deeper and it’s far more personal than we often admit
Heartbreak Is the Loss of What Could Have Been Sometimes heartbreak isn’t about someone leaving…It’s about the life you imagined but never lived…It’s the business that didn’t take off…The scholarship that didn’t come through…The child you prayed for but never held…That “yes” that turned into a “no”. These silent heartbreaks, the ones people don’t know about or even gather around for…you grieve in the privacy of your own chest and cry in quiet moments when no one’s watching.
Grief Is Heartbreak in Another Form There’s no heartbreak quite like losing someone you love. I’ve written here about grief in several posts like Grief, Grieving Never Ends, Friday the 13th, Happy birthday Asomy. It’s a topic I’ve explored deeply. Sometimes grief is not just for the dead; sometimes it’s distance, or the loss of a once-close bond. All these just break the heart. Often, time eases the pain, but it doesn’t erase it. We rarely “move on” from heartbreak, we move forward, we learn from it. I have.
Disappointment Can Break Your Heart Too Sometimes, it’s not about the people in our lives…but life itself. Life can break our hearts. When you give your best, pour your all into something but it isn’t enough… a job, a friendship, a calling. When you expect more from life, and life gives you less.
Sometimes, its us. We Break Our Own Hearts For me, the hardest heartbreak to accept is the one we cause ourselves. When we betray who we are just to belong…stay too long in a place that no longer sees us…silence our voice so we don’t make others uncomfortable. This continues and builds quietly…day after day, until one morning, you wake up and realize: I don’t even recognize myself anymore. This hurts.
Here’s the twist: as much a Heartbreak hurts, it also awakens us.
It shows you who your real friends are.
It teaches you what you truly want.
It grows compassion in you for others.
It pulls out a strength you didn’t know you had.
Its number 4 for me. I love it the most.
One thing I have learned is this; if your heart can break, it also means your heart can feel…and a heart that feels deeply is also a heart that can heal, rebuild, and love again, but wiser this time.
So if you’re in the middle of a heartbreak, stay hopeful, be encouraged. This pain is not your ending. It’s a deep turning, get ready to grow.
Movies are made for fans and I get really excited when I read comments where fans are really invested in a movie.
I slept too early last night and so around 3am I found myself awake. I contemplated journaling the last novel I read for a booktok post but I decided on a movie instead.
I settled for Picture This, a British Romantic comedy released on Amazon Prime Video in March 2025.
When I was done, In my usual way, I went online to see what people were saying about it.
I had a good laugh…majority of the comments were on about how it felt like the couple in the movie was cheating on their actual partners… Anthony and Tessa.
Long story short, the couple in the movie is played by:
Hero Fiennes Tiffin: he’s grown on fans over the years from his performance as Hardin in the After Series. Tessa is the love of his life in this series and it feels weird to see him with someone else.
Simone Ashley: she captured hearts in her fascinating performance as Kate in the second season of Julia Quinn’s Bridgerton series; The Viscount Who Loved Me. She marries Anthony and later falls in love him.
They did really well with “cheating on their actual partners”.
I loved the film, it’s a simple feel-good film. I’m glad I picked it to pass time. I would recommend it.
