Social Media Fasting: Finding Balance in a Noisy World

In 2022, I wrote a blog post here titled Social Media Fasting. It has remained the most viewed post to date. I guess there are a lot of people out there searching for a balance between online life and real life. This may be an evergreen relevant topic. I decided to do an updated version.


One night, long after my son and I had said good night, I was tucked in and ready for my usual night routine (book and/or movie) when he walked into my room. He asked if he could sleep in my bed. I said yes, but I also asked why.

He told me he was afraid because of a story he overheard me discussing with some ladies; an incident that had gone viral on the “blue app.” I remembered it immediately; I had been a bit shaken by that story myself.

Later that night, while he slept peacefully beside me, I started to replay the conversation in my head. I realized how much of my attention social media was quietly stealing and how even my child was picking up the fear and anxiety it sometimes carried into my home. I promised myself I would cut down. It was hard at first, but step by step, it became easier.

Social media is powerful. It helps us reconnect with old schoolmates, keep in touch with family, make new friends, and even build businesses. For many, it has been the springboard from “zero to hero.” It has given countless people a voice and platform.

But just as it helps, it can also harm. Negativity, comparison, cyberbullying, endless bad news…it all adds up. And often, the bad overshadows the good.

The truth is simple: balance is the key. If social media brings joy and productivity to your life, then you’re in a healthy place. But if scrolling starts eating into family time, prayer time, sleep, or work…and if it leaves you feeling anxious, sad, or drained, then it may be time to pause.

That’s where a social media fast comes in.

What Is Social Media Fasting?

When we hear “fasting,” we usually think of food. But fasting is bigger than that. it’s about intentionally giving something up to regain focus, clarity, and strength.

A social media fast is a deliberate break from apps and platforms that consume your time and energy. For some, it’s about reconnecting with God. For others, it’s about mental health, relationships, or productivity. Whatever your reason, it’s a reset button for your mind and spirit.



Steps for a Successful Social Media Fast

Here are some steps that helped me and may guide you too:

1. Know Your Why
Every fast starts with a reason. Ask yourself: Why do I want this break? What do I hope to gain? Is it a one-time reset, or will I make it a regular practice? Write it down…it will keep you anchored.

2. Set a Duration
Decide how long your fast will be. It could be 3 days, 7 days, 21 days, 40 days, or longer. If you run a business or public page, you may opt for shorter fasts or assign someone to manage your accounts temporarily.

3. Prepare Substitutes
Scrolling takes time…lots of it. Before your fast, plan what will replace that time. Read books, take walks, journal, learn a new skill, or reorganize your space. Fill the gap with something nourishing.

4. Journal the Experience
Keep notes on how you feel, what changes you notice, and what surprises you. This record will encourage you in future fasts.

5. Decide on the Method.
Will you keep the apps on your phone and test your self-discipline, or delete them entirely for the duration? Be honest with yourself and choose what will help you succeed.

6. Stay Accountable
Tell a trusted friend or family member. Ask them to check in on you. Accountability makes the journey easier.

7. Start…and Stay Focused
The hardest part is often the beginning. But once you start, lean on your “why” and resist the urge to “catch up” afterward. Remember: this isn’t punishment…it’s freedom.


After the Fast
It’s tempting to dive back in and make up for “lost time.” But doing so defeats the purpose. Instead, return slowly and mindfully. Keep your goals in front of you and continue to protect your peace.

Purpose is the watchword.

A Reflection for 2025 and Beyond

When I first wrote about social media fasting in 2022, I didn’t imagine how relevant it would remain. But three years later, the challenge is even greater. With endless short videos, AI-driven feeds, and constant breaking news, it’s harder than ever to step away.

That’s why fasting from social media isn’t just a nice idea—it’s a survival skill. It’s how we reclaim our time, protect our peace, and stay present with the people and purposes that truly matter.

So maybe it’s time for you too. Will you try a social media fast?
Stats for Social Media Fasting

Purple hearts

“It seems you are in a purple heart season”.

That’s what my sister said to me a few days ago when I replied her message with a purple heart. She had noticed that I had been sending out purple hearts for a while. I send out hearts…a lot.

“Mine is green” she added. I remember she had mentioned a few months ago how everything was lush for her in this season of her life and it had already started to manifest in several areas. I could already see it for myself.

Sending out purple hearts started subconsciously in August 2022 after I saw the movie ‘Purple Hearts’ and then after a while, I decided to make it a thing… My thing.

I learned that the medal presented to service members who had been wounded or killed by the enemy while serving in the United States military was called a Purple Heart.

I loved the solemnity that came with it. I decided I needed to surround myself with purple hearts. I deserve a Purple Heart for some of the wounds and injuries of this life.

Heck, everyone deserves a Purple Heart. We have all been hurt and wounded…some lives have even been lost from emotional, physical, mental and spiritual wars.

Besides, psychologists tell us that purple calms, stimulates and awakens our senses, it fosters creativity. Purple has also always been associated with wealth and royalty.

So I am gradually replacing the usual red heart with a purple one.

It may bring me more than I could even expect… Who knows!!!

How dare you!!!!

We often get to feel many different kinds of emotions…pain, joy, fear, sadness and more. Of these emotions, only the positive ones are permitted.

One of the major reasons for the rejection of the expression of negative emotions is religion. We often believe that if we say we feel it then it has won.

For me, I think the stories from my religion are not just for story telling. These stories teach me that God loved open and honest relationships. We can see different examples with Hezekiah, Moses. Abraham, David, Job and many more characters.

As a believer of openness, showing/saying how you feel and feeling your feelings, I do not subscribe to the rejection or avoidance of any kind of emotions. You can read about some of my views in Feelings and Beauty in Candour.

It’s okay to feel it, what I beleive is harmful is staying in the feeling. But how can I work my way out if I don’t call it what it is?

Many have died in silence…literally, because they are afraid to say the words; I am sad. I feel lonely. I feel anxious. I am afraid.

The world will not let them.

Even when they do not say anything in return, their stares screem ‘How dare you’.

Me

If you could be someone else for a day, who would you be, and why?

I would be me.

If I could be someone else for a day, I would be me.

The me that I seek, the me I dream about.

The me who thinks before she speaks, the me who doesn’t react with emotions. The me who makes all the right decisions.

I would be the me who doesn’t let the probelms of the world weigh me down. The me who can just enjoy life and let things be.

Why? So that I can be happy. I desire happiness.

If i could be someone else for a day, i would be my own super hero, I would be SUPER MIMI

Grow

Growth is not limited to physical development alone. We never stop growing. My sister Angie wrote a poem some time ago; we never stop playing, our toys only change.

It is the same with growth. We never stop growing, the factors only change.

As adults, we need to continue to grow, develop and renew ourselves mentally, emotionally and even physically.

Read a new book, watch a movie, find a good television series and spend time with it, research every new thing you learn from these.

Switch your genre. Move out of that comfort zone.

Have intelligent conversations, ask questions. Confirm facts from the conversations, don’t digest everything you hear.

Meet new people, mix your circle.

Ask questions. Don’t make assumptions.

Exercise your brain, play games.

Grow

I want to play

Is there anything you feel too old to do anymore?

I keep seeing these writing prompts on my jetpack app. Today’s prompt is one I can’t ignore.

I want to go out when it rains and sing out loud. I want to run in the field and jump around like I have no cares or worries. I want to jump rope with my friends and play hand games. I want to feel the wind on my skin and even the sun too. I caught myself daydreaming about this a few times, I even put it in words in Play time

I want to play.

But I feel I’m too old, I can’t do this anymore.

We never know

Farewell tWitch.

With so much sadness, I write this piece.

Stephen Laurel “tWitch” Boss was found dead and it seemed to look like a suicide. In as much as it hurts and kind of hard to believe, it is a reminder to me that the happiest people may not necessarily be totally as happy as they look.

Even though I seem to be leaning towards lots of tweeps saying an investigation should be carried out because “something just doesn’t seem right”, we still ought to realise that people are dealing with a lot of stuff and try really hard not to show it. The world is very judgmental and this makes so many people try to hide their real emotions and fears.

I don’t know what led to his decision but my heart goes out to his family in this very difficult season of their lives.

tWitch was Ellen DeGeneres’ long time DJ and Co-producer, he always had a smile, his dance moves were pretty cool and he really had a way with the fans.

We never know what people are dealing with, let us try to;

  • Realise that everyone has something on their mind.
  • Pay attention and be sensitive to the cares and needs of our family and friends.
  • Be kinder with our words.
  • Render random acts of kindness.
  • Check on our “happy and cheerful” friends and family members too.

Too strong

For my sisters (blood and water)

You know yourselves

Bracing all storms. Working through a headache or even a heart ache. Smiling through the pain. Coming through for people who may be weak/down but who are really doing better than you are, mentally, financially and physically.

People run to you, all the time. They know you are always there, always strong…

There’s a problem with being too strong.

When you break, it sometimes is irreparable.

Some times just let yourself be weak.

You need you more than they need you.

Shush

Everyday… every minute. Scrolling. What’s the content?

Is my soul quiet?.

Can I hear a still small voice?

Did I miss it?

Was it too quiet? Or was I not paying attention? Scrolling… Dark Blue app, Light Blue app, Pink app… App… App… App

Oh my soul, be quiet. I missed the whisper before.

I don’t want to miss it anymore.

God help my soul.

Making Time

My eldest sister is a very busy person, she is a mom, works a 9 to 5 job, makes pillows and coaches people on mental health. In the middle of all this, she reaches out to the world. Yes, the world. Every now and again I get people telling me how she reached out to them and so and so.

She considers me to be equally busy, I am a mom,  I work a 9 to 5 and I run a bake shop and I make time to talk with people who need my time. In the midst of this, I write, listen to a lot of music and I catch up with the latest movies and my favourite series.

One thing my sister has always wondered about my extra activities, is how I get to see the latest movies in the midst of my own busy life. I guess the answer is simple; I make time.

I have trained myself over the years to make time for stuff. Only a few days ago my immediate older sister commended me on how I was doing with blogtober and said she wondered how I was able to do it. I had the same response; I think I just make the time.

How to make time for stuff:

  • Create a schedule and stick to it: at the beginning of any week, I usually make a plan for what I plan to achieve. This includes movies I would like to see, series to catch up on, people I would like to catch up with and other activities. I often create a plan for this and I try to make sure to stick to it.
  • If you miss the scheduled time, push it in: this is very important to me because if I miss a plan, I frown. So if I miss a scheduled activity, I find a way to push it into the next day’s activity.
  • Submit yourself to someone: this has always remained my number one solution to almost everything. Make yourself accountable to someone. The normal human has a way of shoving things aside when there isn’t anyone to hold us responsible. That is why I always make my plans known to someone and have them remind me about them.
  • Remember the reason: the reason for a thing is the key to every execution. If we fail to remember why we want something then there is no point to it, is there? Remembering how important something is helps us to get it done.

Bottom line is: if something is important to us, we have to learn to make time for it. Some important things may not be a life or death affair, it may just be a leisure activity that could keep life better and easier for us.

PS. I think my sister makes time to reach out to the world and I must applaud her for that.