Love over Hate

“And on the Night He Was Betrayed”… The Weight of Those Words.

I’ve heard those words my entire life, I heard them every week when I was a child until I was in my twenties, when I stepped away from the Catholic church. I still hear them whenever I crave for and/or when I attend mass these days. I never gave it much thought…but today it’s all I can think about.

These words are a solemn preface to the Last Supper, a moment suspended in both holiness and heartbreak. They are not just a timestamp in the Passion narrative, they are a portal into the deepest paradoxes of love, trust, and sacrifice.

What strikes me most about this phrase is its quiet placement at the threshold of what should have been a sacred gathering… a final meal with trusted friends. Instead, it begins with betrayal. Jesus, fully aware of what was coming, did not flinch or flee. He did not storm out or denounce Judas publicly. He stayed. He served. He broke bread…with Judas

There is something deeply human and painfully divine about choosing to love even as you’re being hurt.

Many of us know betrayal… from friends, family, systems, even from within ourselves. It makes you want to recoil, to shield your heart. But “on the night he was betrayed,” Jesus chose vulnerability. He chose generosity. He gave thanks. It wasn’t an act of denial, but defiance against bitterness. He redefined the moment… not as the night he was victimized, but as the night he offered himself for the world.

That is power. Not a loud performative power…but quiet, enduring power that transforms pain into purpose. Hmmmm.

When betrayal finds its way into our lives…and it will…we are faced with a choice. We may not be called to break literal bread or pour out wine, but we are constantly invited to decide: Will this moment define me, or will I redefine it?

“And on the night he was betrayed” isn’t a phrase frozen in ancient liturgy. It is a rhythm in the heart of anyone who has ever chosen courage over revenge, love over hate, faith over despair.

So the next time you hear those words; “and on the night he was betrayed”, pause. Let them settle in your chest. Consider the love that moves toward pain with open hands. Consider the strength it takes to stay present in the breaking, and the hope that even betrayal can be the backdrop for something sacred.

Maybe the true power of that night wasn’t in what was done to him, but in what he did anyway.

Tennessee orange

I listened with a little bit of melancholy but I smiled the whole time.

I was melancholic because I couldn’t get over thinking about the way a person can give up all and everything they once believed in for another because of the way they make them feel. I smiled because I actually thought it was sweet.

Tennessee Orange is a song by Megan Moroney.

It’s a song about college football. In the song, she tells her folks how she had ditched her Georgia ways for some guy’s Tennessee thing.

She sings a lot of confessions about the many ways she has disappointed them and finishes with; “I’m wearing Tennessee Orange for him” after each verse.

It is unusual for a person to totally switch sides from one club/group to the other… Like an Arsenal fan suddenly becoming a Manchester United fan, or Lakers fan suddenly loving Celtics…

… But I guess love can make a person do this.

Love can make a person do a lot of things they never imagined they would.

It’s the reason Bulldog red doesn’t seem too appealing anymore and now she’s wearing Tennessee Orange for him.