Baskets and Contentment

Very early this morning, my husband looked over at my stack of baskets, and then he began laughing.

“Where on earth did you get these baskets?”.

There wasn’t anything wrong with the baskets though, his curiosity was with the number of the baskets. The baskets have been there for about two months and I’m pretty sure he has been meaning to ask.

I went ahead and explained how I bought them and why. This explanation meandered and  led to us talking about some adjustments we had to do in our son SonTer’s room before he came home for the holidays. After the lengthy discussion,  I sighed and smiled and said, “I just love that boy. He’s such a contented child.”

My husband’s remark to that was one of worry. He worried that SonTer was just like he and I… and maybe the combination makes him too contented. He explained how he always worries that we are too contented… unlike how it’s expected in the world… especially these days.

I pondered on it for a while, and I asked, “…but are we happy?”.

He looked back at me, smiled, and said, “You have a good point, woman.”

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He Did It Again

On the third day of October 2023, my darling Su’eddie  made me smile. I promised to tell the world the words he said to me, because I loved the words. They were so true about me.

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These are his words;

FOREVER COUNTRY…

That song…A Forever Song by Artists of Then and Now

When last did you listen to it?

Importantly, u ngu nena?1

Listen again

Watch the video

Deeper feeling to it

But…you know you are FOREVER COUNTRY, right?

You have the heart of a country girl…all parts of it

The grit, hardwork, honesty, mushiness and even emotions

Jeans ma you dey wear sef!2

Wetin remain?3

You have that loyalty too.

If you were to describe yourself in a word, tell the person you are just a country girl born in a Nigerian vessel.

All the Mills and Boom plus Harlequin people.

You have it, plus the way they describe beauty.

There’s no time I listen to country or visualise it, that you do not somehow sneak into my mind.

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Today, he did it again… he sent me a voice message with almost the same words…and a little more. He ditched the country girl part and went ahead to praise my character and talents. It came at the right time, just when I was needing a pick-up in a dull season.

In 2024 I’m learning not to be too modest with accepting compliments. Thank you Su’eddie for reminding me that I am an “amazing wife, a loyal sister, great mother, a delight to be with, a cheerful person, an empathetic person, a person with high levels of commitment to people, an accountable person, honest, focused…”.

Today, on this International Women’s Day in 2024, I use this opportunity to celebrate myself.

Glossary

1. Importantly, how are you doing?

2. You also put on jeans

3. What is left?

Celebrating

Some years ago, I got my first male student at my bakery; Kator… He was very young and innocent.

He found himself in the midst of at least 10 ladies…

The mother in me became very protective and before long, everyone called him my son…even his own mother.

My son also called him ‘brother’; A couple of years ago he baked a surprise birthday cake by himself for Kator from start to finish.

One afternoon, I asked Sonter to go and get Kator for me and I over heard him say;

“My mom says you should come inside”

“Ah, Sonter, you always say our mom. Why the switch to ‘my mom’ today?” Kator asked.

Weeks after that conversation I found out Kator had upset him…

…and the pattern continued.

‘Our’ became ‘my’ whenever he wasn’t happy with him.

I didn’t stop him, I only told him he couldn’t go on in life that way…cutting people off just because you were upset with them. This year, SonTer sketched an image of Kator for his birthday.

I digress…

We’ve not seen much of him lately because he got into school for his MBBS.

This year, Kator sent me the most touching birthday message anyone has ever sent to me…ever.

His words to himself today also encouraged me; https://lyricsscribbles.wordpress.com/2023/09/12/chapter-twenty-two22/

I feel so blessed to call him son.

Happy birthday to him.