Heartbreak 💔

I stopped by my bakeshop on my way home from work this evening. The girls, my “son” and I got talking and somehow, we got to talking about how something really broke Blessing’s heart. As we went deeper into this thing that broke her heart, we began to talk about how funny it was that most people feel a heartbreak only has to do with the end of romantic relationship.

A Heartbreak Is More Than a Breakup.

When people hear the word heartbreak, most think of a romantic breakup. Maybe a boyfriend or girlfriend walking away, a spouse choosing someone else, or the end of a love story. That is heartbreak, yes… but it is not the whole story.
Heartbreak is wider, heartbreak is deeper and it’s far more personal than we often admit

Heartbreak Is the Loss of What Could Have Been
Sometimes heartbreak isn’t about someone leaving…It’s about the life you imagined but never lived…It’s the business that didn’t take off…The scholarship that didn’t come through…The child you prayed for but never held…That “yes” that turned into a “no”. These silent heartbreaks, the ones people don’t know about or even gather around for…you grieve in the privacy of your own chest and cry in quiet moments when no one’s watching.

Grief Is Heartbreak in Another Form
There’s no heartbreak quite like losing someone you love. I’ve written here about grief in several posts like Grief, Grieving Never Ends, Friday the 13th, Happy birthday Asomy. It’s a topic I’ve explored deeply.
Sometimes grief is not just for the dead; sometimes it’s distance, or the loss of a once-close bond. All these just break the heart.
Often, time eases the pain, but it doesn’t erase it.
We rarely “move on” from heartbreak, we move forward, we learn from it. I have.

Disappointment Can Break Your Heart Too
Sometimes, it’s not about the people in our lives…but life itself. Life can break our hearts.
When you give your best, pour your all into something but it isn’t enough…
a job, a friendship, a calling.
When you expect more from life, and life gives you less.

Sometimes, its us. We Break Our Own Hearts
For me, the hardest heartbreak to accept is the one we cause ourselves. When we betray who we are just to belong…stay too long in a place that no longer sees us…silence our voice so we don’t make others uncomfortable.
This continues and builds quietly…day after day, until one morning, you wake up and realize: I don’t even recognize myself anymore. This hurts.

Here’s the twist: as much a Heartbreak hurts, it also awakens us.

• It shows you who your real friends are.
• It teaches you what you truly want.
• It grows compassion in you for others.
• It pulls out a strength you didn’t know you had.

Its number 4 for me. I love it the most.

One thing I have learned is this; if your heart can break, it also means your heart can feel…and a heart that feels deeply is also a heart that can heal, rebuild, and love again, but wiser this time.

So if you’re in the middle of a heartbreak, stay hopeful, be encouraged.
This pain is not your ending.
It’s a deep turning, get ready to grow.

Author: Emaistace

wife, mom, sister, daughter, aunty, friend. writing my everyday thoughts as they pop up. View all posts by Emaistace